A Seat At The Table

 

conference table

Recently I got to have dinner with two people I deeply respect and admire in Education.  These are passionate, accomplished professional writers, speakers and most importantly; they are passionate teachers. They hold rock star status for me and many in my field.  I was delighted to be in their company, one evening after work.  But suddenly, everything changed.  I didn’t even begin to see it coming.

You see, I’m first educated in my family.  No one went to college before me. I wasn’t college track in school.  I didn’t know there was one.   I didn’t understand why other kids went off to college.  That wasn’t a reality for me or my family.

When I begged to go to college after high school, my father said I “should get some secretarial skills under my belt”.  So I put myself through school while working first as a secretary, and later as sales representative during the day, student at night.  I took classes at the local community college at night.  I applied for and got jobs that usually required college degrees.  I didn’t have one.  I was a poser.  I didn’t belong at the table.

During the course of my studies when someone suggested that I could be a teacher I cried.  I couldn’t imagine it.  But I made decisions based on hope.  I changed majors from business to education and began to study education.  I was older than most other students.  I went to ten different schools, piecing together an undergraduate degree between community colleges and two universities.  It took me ten years to finish, and another two to get a teaching credential.  But you see, I didn’t look on this as tenacity, grit, or perseverance.  Instead, I felt less than.  I didn’t believe I belonged at the table.

That night at dinner, the topic turned to a workshop at Columbia University where educators come from near and far to learn and grow.  Enjoying my wine and the sounds of colleagues all around, I said I’d always wanted to go.

And then – Ka-Boom!

An invitation.

Rock Star #1 said, “Why don’t you come and present with me?”

I’d always imagined attending… but presenting?

Really?  I asked.

Yes. Would you do it?  He replied.

I smiled and blinked out loud before saying “Yes!”

He said I could suggest a topic, “the more outrageous, the better. Saturdays are for people who LOVE the work.  We can be bold.

Wow.  My mind began rapid firing.  The conversation moved along.  I ran a possible topic I’d been playing with by Rock Star 1.

“See, this is me falling in love with you,”  he beamed back at me as I spoke about nerd studies, writing and helping students read.

This IS Amazing.

But perhaps even more amazing is coming to know there is a place at the table for me.  And if this is true, then there is also a place, my friend and colleague, for you.

 

 

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About Be Strong. Be Courageous. Be You

Principal at the Sweetest Little School by the Sea at the north end of Los Angeles Harbor. Working to make the world a little more awesome.
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7 Responses to  A Seat At The Table

  1. Mindi Rench says:

    What a great story. This is the perfect example of what can happen when a person holds onto a dream and persists even when obstacles arise. And what validation, when a person you respect suggests presenting together. Congratulations!

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  2. jarhartz says:

    Beautifully written Dayna. Glad you wrote this for us and for you.

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  3. dashthebook says:

    What a moving piece! I just had a lunch with a friend and we were half joking about each of our college tracks. I told him I was embarassed at how long some things took me, and instead of celebrating my perseverance and work ethic, I felt shame. Your post here reminds me to keep the big pricture in mind. I worked countless jobs to help pay my way for my first degree, and I shouldn’t feel shame, but pride.

    Congratulations on your seat at the table, and best wishes on your presentation! You have much to offer!

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    • daywells says:

      Greg, I reread this post and your comment tonight. I intended to thank you before. It is amazing how kindred spirits connect through this TWT blog. I have such gratitude for happening upon your blog, sharing your work, and I thank you for your thoughts.

      Btw – I ordered Dash today!

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